In Stress and Coping

Do you know the fear that might hold you back in life?

As a human being, definitely, you have some sort of fears. Whether your fear is related to your relationships, career or discomfort you need to be acknowledged that you cannot reach your goal.

In fact, many of you work hard to prevent yourselves from ever feeling anxious. And if you fail to cope with the situation, it’s more likely, you may develop depression. Your efforts to keep yourself comfortable inadvertently backfire. You live boring, safe life that allows you to avoid any risk and excitement necessary to feel fully alive.

Psychotherapists recognize 10 top fears that might hold you back in life.

1. Change

All of us live in an ever-changing world, and change happens more rapidly than ever before. Despite this fact, however, you might fear change and as a result, resist it.

This can cause you to miss out on many promising opportunities that come your way. You run the risk of being stagnant and staying stuck in a rut when you avoid change.

2. Loneliness

The fear of loneliness can sometimes make you resist living alone or even stay in bad relationships. Or the fear of loneliness can push you to obsessively use social media to the extent that you miss out on making face-to-face connections.

And while it’s smart to ward off loneliness (studies show it’s just harmful to your health), it’s important to surround yourself with healthy people and healthy social interactions. 

3. Failure

One of the most common fears on earth is the fear of failure. It’s embarrassing to fail. And it may reinforce your beliefs that you don’t measure up.

You also might avoid doing anything where success isn’t guaranteed. Ultimately, you’ll miss out on all the life lessons and opportunities that might help you find success.

4. Rejection

You might avoid things like meeting new people or trying to enter into a new relationship because of the fear of being rejected. Even if you are already married you might sometimes avoid asking your spouse for something, imagining that you’ll receive the “no” answer.

Whether you’re scared to ask that attractive person out on a date or to ask your boss for a raise, the fear of rejection could keep you stuck. And while rejection stings, it doesn’t hurt as much as a missed opportunity.

5. Uncertainty

You might often avoid trying something different for fear of uncertainty. After all, there’s no guarantee that doing something new will make life better.

But staying the same is one surefire way to stay stagnant. Whether you’re afraid to accept a new job or afraid to move to a new city, don’t let the fear of uncertainty hold you back. 

6. Something Bad Happening

It is an unfortunate and inevitable fact that bad things will happen in life. Is it your thought about the life? If yes, be aware that the fear of doom prevents you from enjoying life.

You can’t prevent bad things from happening all the time. But don’t let that fear stop you from living a rich, full life that’s also full of good things.

7. Getting Hurt

Hopefully, you were taught to look both ways before you cross the street so that you won’t get hurt. But quite often, your fear of getting hurt might cause you to become emotionally overprotective of yourself.

Your fear of uncomfortable feelings and emotional wounds might prevent you from making deep, meaningful connections. Or it might stop you from being vulnerable at work. But without emotional risk, there aren’t any rewards. 

8. Being Judged

It’s normal to want to be liked. But the fear of being judged can prevent you from being your true self.

The truth is that some people will judge you harshly no matter what. But trusting that you’re mentally strong enough to live according to your values is a key to living your best life.

9. Inadequacy

Another fear shared by many people is the feeling of not being good enough. If you feel like you don’t measure up, you might become an underachiever. Or you might become a perfectionist in an effort to try and prove your worth.

The fear of inadequacy can be deep-rooted. And while it’s hard to face it head-on, you’ll never succeed until you feel worthy of your success.

10. Loss of Freedom

A certain amount of this fear can be healthy, but it becomes a problem when it holds you back in life. The fear of the loss of freedom becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, someone who wants to live a free life might avoid getting a job with a steady income. Consequently, they might miss out on the freedom that comes with financial stability. So, it’s important to consider what you’re giving up when you fear to lose certain freedoms.

Fortunately, you don’t have to let your fears keep you stuck. You can face your fears head-on, one small step at a time.

Facing your fears builds mental muscle. And the more mental muscle you have, the easier it is to face your fears. Getting proactive about doing the things that scare you, you’ll be able to build the mental strength you need to live your best life.

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