Your thoughts are the source of virtually everything in your life. Every relationship that you’re in is something that you carry around with you. If your relationship is lousy, it’s because you think of it that way. The person you’re in a relationship with isn’t with you in this moment, or when you’re at work, or when you’re in the bathroom, but your thoughts about that person are always with you. The only way you can experience another person is in your thoughts.
You can’t get behind their eyeballs and be them. You can only process them with your thoughts. If you look for what’s wrong about them and store that negative image in your mind, then that’s where your relationship exists. If you change your thoughts to what you love rather than to what you label as wrong, you’ve just changed your entire relationship. It went from lousy to great by your changing your mind!
Try to always remember that you carry every relationship around with you in your head. Robert Frost reminded us, “We love the things we love for what they are.” When you forget this and process other people on the basis of what you think they should be, or what they used to be, or how they compare to what you are, then you’ve sent love away, and in your mind, the relationship has soured. You experience every thing and every one in your thoughts. Change your thoughts, and you change what you carry around in your head as problems.
The world is just the way it is. The economy is just as it should be. The people who are behaving “badly” in the world are doing what they’re supposed to be doing. You can process it in any way that you choose. If you’re filled with anger about all of those “problems,” you are one more person who contributes to the pollution of anger.
Excerpt taken from 10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace