Just imagine a scenario when a couple is moving in the car along the road with different landscaping on both road sides. The passenger sees the puddles and dirt from her side, while the driver sees blooming field flowers. The couple starts discussing what they see; and cannot understand each other as see the same event from different perspectives. The essence of this story was that the passenger allowed her view to become limited. She could only see what lay immediately before her. She didn’t take the time to use her full range of vision. By focusing on this area, she became more negative and down hearten. It can be the same for us when we face a challenging situation.
Sometimes when we recognize our faults, but not our achievements and successes. Doing this we can disable ourselves. Let’s look at the scenario related to a workplace. You become consumed with a particular activity to the detriment of the aspects of your work which can be more rewarding… And Voilà, you create stress, which is occupying all your daily working practices and you start feeling like you are descending into a downward spiral. It is more likely that you tell yourself that it is out of your control. Yes, it might happen. You might work within a system or with managers who dictate your priorities. Typically, within many organisations, the focus is on demonstrating outcomes or generating profit. And this comes with a lot of pressure. The same might happen in your relationships with your spouse, your romantic partner, your child, or your friend.
If you find yourself in such a situation, what can you do about it?
In this and similar cases, the pressure can start to take its toll and it can become easy to feel defeated. However, in such cases, it can be wise to remember the bigger picture. When something is distressing us, we’re so close to it, involved with it, part of it – it’s really hard to stand back from what’s happening. It’s like the well-known saying “We can’t see the wood for the trees”. We can zoom out our view, and see the bigger picture. This principle is called the “Helicopter View” – as the helicopter takes off, getting higher and higher, it sees a bigger picture, and is less involved with the details at ground level. Seeing different perspectives will help to reduce distressing emotions, help us feel more confident, enable us to be more understanding and emphatic, and improve communication and relationships.
Take a holistic look and rather than focusing on what doesn’t work well, also take the time to identify what does work, what motivates and encourages you.
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